A Very Modern Application to the Story of the Good Samaritan


The recent Supreme Court ruling over Same Sex marriage has sparked heated debate among many Christians.  I know through many conversations, I have seen that in so many Christian eyes that they see things only on one end of the pendulum or another.  We can either stand for truth or we can show love.  One side would say that “we are not really showing love if we don’t tell them the truth.”  And the other side would say, “we aren’t speaking the truth if we just accept them the way they are.”

Although both approaches are biblical, they do not have to be mutually exclusive.  The problem is that so many Christians can’t see past their own paradigm and they think they are balanced.  “I will speak the truth in love.  I hate the sin and not the sinner.”  Or  “God wants us to love the sinner and win them to Him through love and acceptance.”   The real problem is that there is truth in both sides.  But we often fail to show the whole truth because of our focus.  Although many Christians think they speak the truth in love, the only thing that is seen by the lost world is venom and hate.  Though we think we are showing God’s love by accepting the sinner, we never stand for truth enough for them to be convicted of their sins and see their need for a Savior.

The other night, I began to pray for wisdom as to how we as Christians should react to the LGBT people we may come in contact with.   I am not talking about how we should react to the SCOTUS ruling.  If you feel called to fight that ruling based on the United States Constitution then please do.  However, the gist of this blog post is about how Christians should react when we talk to our LGBT friends.

While in prayer, God reminded me of the parable of the Good Samaritan and in my mind I immediately began to see a parallel here.   So here is my modern day version of that great parable that Jesus told.

A same sex couple entered into a local bakery all happy that they were now legally able to get married.  “We want to talk to you about making the wedding cake for our upcoming wedding,” they told the owner of the bakery.

The owner of this bakery, a devout Christian with strong beliefs and an immense hatred of sin, especially this particular one, furrowed his eyebrows as his face glowed red from anger.  “I WILL NOT,” he practically shouted, his finger already pointing towards the door.  “I don’t care what the Supreme Court ruled, marriage is between a man and a woman, not two men or two women.  I do not offer service to such depraved and awful sinners.  God will judge you for your evil and despicable ways and I will not take any part of such a sinful practices.  May God have mercy on your soul for you are surely going to burn in Hell for all eternity for your actions.”

“But all we want is a cake,” the couple pleaded.

“And all you will get is hell fire and damnation.  You will spend eternity in the lake of fire where the worm never dies and there will be forever weeping and nashing of teeth.  A punishment that is even too good for the likes of you.”

The couple couldn’t bolt out the door fast enough as they felt the venom of this devout Christian attacking them.  “Is this what Christianity is all about?” one asked the other.  “I grew up hearing that God is love.  But it sure doesn’t sound like it to me.  I am glad we aren’t getting married in a church.  Christians are evil people.”

“Let’s try the next bakery on our list,” the other suggested.  “Hopefully, they will be a little nicer.”

They made their way to the next bakery and noticed the symbol of the fish on their doorway with a sign that said, “We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone.”  They also noticed that they were closed on Sundays.  “It looks like this one might be just like the first one,” the one said.  “Let’s not even go here.”

“We are here,” the other responded.  “Maybe they aren’t so bad.  We can leave right away if they are.”

They held hands as they entered the bakery.  The owner of the bakery was standing behind the counter, giving them a glare that could not be interpreted any other way but disgust.  “Let’s get out of here,” the one said.

“Not yet,” the other responded.  “I heard they make good cakes here at a very good price.”  He pointed over to the counter where a teenage girl was taking inventory.

“Dad,” the girl called out.  “We need to make some more of those snicker doodle cookies that everyone loves.  We are almost out again.”

“I’ll get right to it,” the owner of the bakery responded, his judgmental stare still gazing at the couple standing in his store.  “Honey,” the owner spoke to his daughter, his piercing glare never wandering from the customers who stood before him holding hands.  “I need you to go in the back right now.  Make sure we have a fresh pot of coffee brewing.”

The girl scampered to the back, stopping only for a second to recognize the couple in the store.  But in that second, the glare of judgment was evident on her face.

“Can I help you?” the owner addressed the couple.

“Yes,” one spoke, a feeling of relief spreading over his face.  Maybe this guy wasn’t so bad after all. “We heard your wedding cakes are really good.  We are getting married and would like to talk to you about doing our wedding cake.”

“I’m sorry,” the owner responded.  “I cannot participate in such an unholy matrimony.  God clearly states that same sex marriage is an abomination to Him and that all gay people are going to Hell.”

“We aren’t asking to join your church,” the other man responded, his frustration starting to grow.  “We simply want a wedding cake.”

“Then perhaps you should find one of your gay friends to make you a cake,” the owner responded.  “But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.  Joshua 24:15.”

“That’s nice that you and your house want to serve God,” one of the men responded, “but can’t you serve us, your customers too?”

“No,” the owner responded.  “What fellowship has light with darkness?  2 Corinthians 6:14”

One of them men felt his face flush in frustration and even growing anger.  “Are you going to stand there and quote the Bible to us as a reason why you want to violate our civil rights?  Doesn’t the Bible say something about “Judge not and love everyone and stuff like that.”

The owner smiled and nodded.  “I am not judging you.  You are free to live like you want to live.  But I am free to refuse to take part in this.   My family and my business are under God’s laws, not man’s laws.”

At that moment, the owner’s daughter popped her head through the doorway.  “Dad, mom is on the phone.  She wants to know if I can stay with her next weekend because she wants to take me shopping.  She said I can stay with you this weekend if its okay.”

“That’s fine.  Tell your mother, I will call her back later.”

“I take it you are divorced,” one of the men asked the owner.

“Yes, three years now,” the owner answered.

“Doesn’t your Bible that you love to quote say something about God hating divorce?”  the other man quickly spoke up.

The owner’s tone rose as he asked the men to leave.  He had business to take care of.

“So you are not going to make our wedding cake because we are gay,” one man concluded.

“I am not going to make your wedding cake because your lifestyle is against the Bible and the Holy teachings of God.”

“And your lifestyle of being divorced is not against those so called “holy teachings of God?” the man countered.

“That’s different,” the owner responded.  “God may not like divorce, but He has forgiven me for it.  Whereas your sin is unnatural and is cursed.  God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of that very sin.”

“And your sin is okay now because God forgave you?” the man skeptically looked at the owner.

“Yes,” the owner smiled confidently before adding, “I am sorry that you have chosen to live a life of sin that does not honor God.  I urge you to reconsider your lifestyle and repent of your sin before it is too late.”

“I know, I know,” the man responded.  “God hates me because I am gay and so do you and I am going to go to Hell.”

“I don’t hate you,” the owner responded.  “I hate your sin.  It is an abomination to God and I cannot have any part in it or God will judge me for not standing for the truth.”

“So you are afraid of God?”

The owner nodded.  “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.  Proverbs 9:10.”

“And what about love?” the man shot back.  “How do you explain your lack of love towards people who do not agree with you?”

“I do love all people,” the owner responded.  “But because I love people, I am compelled to speak the truth to them.  And your life of sin has no part in the Kingdom of God.  And you are right.  You are going to die and go to Hell because of your sin.”

“Let’s go,” the other man interrupted, “He isn’t going to make our cake.  He cares more about making a statement than he does about serving people.”

“I care more about standing for the truth of God’s Word than anything else,” the owner called out to them as the exited his bakery.

“Cross that bigot off our list,” the men grimaced to each other as they looked down their list of other potential bakers.

“Next time we see a sign of a fish or cross or any other religious symbol on their door, let’s not even go in.”

“Agreed,” the other responded. “Christians are the last people who want to help us.”

Several minutes later, the couple arrived at the next bakery.  There was no sign of a fish or cross on the door.  They entered, hoping that they would find their baker here.

“Can I help you,” the owner called out as the two men entered his bakery.  He couldn’t help but notice that they were holding hands.  In his mind, he uttered a quick prayer for wisdom.  From the moment he heard about the Supreme Court ruling, he knew this day would come.   How was he to react?  He had wrestled with this thought for days.  As a Christian he did not condone their sin, but

“Yes,” one of the men called out.  “We are getting married and need someone to bake our wedding cake.  So far all we have run into are Christian bigots who refuse to help us.”

“Sit down,” the owner smiled.  “Let’s talk.”

The two men gladly sat down to talk to this owner.   Because of his genuine smile, they immediately were set at ease.

“I know you two must be excited,” the owner began.  “I remember when my wife and I were engaged and trying to iron out all the wedding details.  It was exciting, but stressful.”  He laughed as he recalled the time.  “Finding that perfect wedding cake was especially stressful on my wife.”

The men smiled as one of them responded, “You got that right.  It has been especially stressful today because so far no one is willing to make our cake because we are gay.  One even just threw out Bible verses to us to explain his reasoning.   So hopefully, you can help us.”

“I am sorry that you have received such hostility from other Christians,” the owner shook his head.  “I know they are trying to do what they think is right, but they just aren’t coming across the right way.”

“You can say that again,” one of the men laughed.  “Why would I even consider becoming a Christian when all Christians do is spew hate and judgment.  I mean what does a cake really have to do with their religion anyway?”

“Well I understand what they are thinking,” the owner carefully began to speak.  “We Christians are put in a very tough situation here because we do have certain convictions and yet we are also expected to love people – including people who are getting married to the same sex.   And it is not our job or responsibility to condemn you for it.”

“Then you will make our cake?” one of the men looked up anxiously.

“I’d love to,” the owner began.  “But unfortunately,  I can’t.  It’s not because I don’t love you and it is not because I don’t want to help you.  It has to do with my personal relationship with Christ.  Believe me, this is something I have wrestled with for a while.  As much as I want to help you, and can tell by talking to you that you are both good people who are wanting nothing more than to find happiness.  I am not mad at you for wanting to get married.  That is something between you two and God.  But as for me, I know this is not something God wants me to be part of.  It has nothing to do with you.  It has everything to do with where I am in my relationship with God.  It is about me and God.  It is not about me and you.”

“I’m not sure I understand what God has to do with this,” one man interjected.  “I have Christian friends and they are happy for us and support us.”

The owner thought carefully and offered up a quick prayer before he spoke.  “I want nothing more than for you to find the same love, joy, and peace that I have found through Jesus Christ.  I am not judging you for the choices you have made.  God knows I have made some very bad choices in my life and yet I found God’s love and forgiveness.   Yes, I believe that the Bible teaches that same sex marriage is against God’s plan for our lives, but you know so is a lot of other things that we do.  That I do.  I am not perfect.  In fact, I am nowhere near perfect.  I am a sinner just like you are and just like everyone else – including the pastors of all the great churches in our city.  The Bible tells us that everyone has sinned and we all fall short of God’s standard for us.  And as a result of that sin that separates us from God, everyone was destined to spend an eternity in Hell.  I was destined for it.  You were destined for it.  We all were.”

“Well that is one of the big problems I have with Christians,” one of the men interrupted.  “You talk about God being love.  But nothing about Christianity shows love.  The church doesn’t.  We aren’t even welcome in many churches.  Christian people don’t.  We are often shunned by people, looked down upon, made fun of, stared at, and even refused service to.  And then you tell me that the God of the Bible, the same one that you say is all about love, just sends people to Hell.  No thanks.  That is not what I want out of my life.”

“I understand what you are thinking,” the owner replied, his voice softening even more and his eyes searching for a way to be filled with compassion.  “I thought that way one time too.  God, Christians, love.  They just didn’t seem to all fit together.  And as a result, for much of my life I was, as the old song lyrics go, “looking for love in all the wrong places.”

“What changed your mind?”

The bakery owner smiled.  “God did.  Believe me, it was not His people.  But I finally got to the end of myself.  I realized that I could not find that love, joy, and peace that I was looking for in any earthly relationship.  And that is when God reached down and changed my heart.  He showed me that despite everything that I had thought about Him and His people was from the wrong perspective.  Yes, people were dying and going to Hell.  And, yes, I was on a collision course to that as my destiny.  But I saw that God in His very love, provided a way out of that destiny.”

“And that is when you became religious,” one of the men surmised.

The owner smiled.  “No, I am not religious.  Not at all.  Jesus spoke very directly about religious people.  When He walked on earth, that was the one group of people that He wasn’t very nice to.  He enjoyed talking with all kinds of sinner.  Cheaters, swindlers, liars, even prostitutes.  That’s why He came to earth.  To touch, love, and offer forgiveness to all the people who knew they needed it.”

“Well, the way I look at it,” one of the men offered.  “Christians aren’t being very much like Jesus if they aren’t willing to love us enough to bake a cake.”

The owner folded his hands and leaned forward.  This was going to be the difficult part.  “I totally understand what you are saying.  It is confusing.  And I know you have run across many Christians already who seem to have pat answers.  They want to stand on the truth of God’s Word.  So do I.  So Does every Christian who is fully dedicated to Christ.  And believe me, this is one of those issues that is very difficult.  I believe that the Bible is very clear about same sex marriage.  It is something we should not take part in.  But it is also very clear that we are to love people.”

“Well all those other bakery owners sure understood that sin part of the Bible,” one of the men interrupted.  “But I don’t think they understood that love part.  We sure didn’t feel it.  We only felt judgment and condemnation.”

“At the very least,” the owner spoke, “I pray that you sensed at least a little bit of God’s love in me.”

“Oh yeah,” the other man smiled.  “You are real.  You are more like what I expect Christians to be.”

“But that still doesn’t solve our cake issue,” the other man reminded them.

“No it doesn’t,” the owner replied.  In his mind, he quickly said a prayer asking God for wisdom as to how to finish off this conversation.  He never ceased to be amazed at how quickly God gives wisdom when asked.  “And I am truly sorry that I cannot bake your cake.  My Christian convictions will not allow me to.  But here is what I can do.  I have other great baker friends.  Let me make a few phone calls and see if they can fit you into their schedule.  Once you meet with them, I think you will be happy.”

“And what if they won’t do it either?”

“Then come back to me and we will figure out plan B.”

“Thank you,” one of the men said as they both stood to their feet.  “Even though you aren’t going to make our wedding cake, we do appreciate your kindness.”

“And we appreciate the fact that you aren’t looking down on us and passing judgment on us either,” the other man added.  “I haven’t met too many Christians like you.”

“And I am truly sorry about that,” the owner stated.  “I just try to be like Jesus.  John 3:17, the verse that comes right after the famous one John 3:16 that you have probably seen at football games, tells us that Jesus did not come to the world to condemn the world, but He came so the world might be saved through Him.”

“I like that,” one of the men smiled.  “Thank you for not condemning us.”

“Remember that life of love, joy, and peace I talked about?” the owner reminded them.  Both men nodded.  “Jesus offers you that same life.”

From there the owner went on to lay out the plan of Salvation to the men.  Both were interested, but neither made a commitment to Christ that day.  However, before they left, the owner got their contact information so he could follow up with them later.

Before I ask you, the reader, which of these store owners are you more like, I do want to point out that there are other Christian bakers these men could have visited.

Baker #4 – Two blocks over from this last shop, was the Christian baker who, after spending much time in prayer over this issue, decided that his reaction when faced with this dilemma would be very much like that third baker.  But he would take it one step further.  He would actually go above and beyond.  He decided he would use his bakery as an evangelistic took and after presenting Christ’s message, he would agree to make their cake.

Baker #5 – Though he personally did not agree with the idea of same sex marriage, this Christian baker lived by the motto, “live and let live.”  It wasn’t any of his business how other people lived.  He wouldn’t ask any questions or make any judgments.  He would simply make the cake when asked.

So now I ask you, dear reader, which baker are you most like?

#1 – the one who demonstrated disgust and hatred towards the LGBT

#2 – the one who may say that he loved them, but his attitude of superiority and glares of disgust show what is really in his heart.  He loved to throw out Bible verses to support his beliefs, but offered no real attitude of love.

#3 – the one who stepped into the circle with the men, got to know them, talked gently to them, offered them love, joy, and peace as well as Christ’s forgiveness.   But could not compromise and make the cake.

#4 – the one who loved them, presented God’s truth to them, and made the cake for them.

#5 – the one who didn’t seem to really care about their salvation nor making a stand for truth.

Examine yourself carefully.  Which one are you?   And finally, if you were to be honest with yourself and with God, which one or ones do you think most pleases God?

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How Christians Should React Over the Supreme Court’s Gay Marriage Ruling

To all my Christian and conservative friends ( I am one of you), I know that many of you are angry and dismayed over the recent Supreme Court ruling, legalizing gay and lesbian marriages in all 50 states.  But this is not the time to vent and bemoan how terrible things are in our country.  This is not the time to stand up in both social media and even the pulpit’s of churches and declare that the gay and lesbian lifestyle is an abomination.  This is not even a time to fear, as so many are apt to do.

Am I scared and worried after this ruling? Yes. I am very scared.  But not for the reasons you think. I’m scared that Christians will now only confirm what so many already believe us to be. Intolerant, judgmental, haters. I’m afraid we are going to put an even bigger wall up between us and the rest of the world by our reactions and attitudes to today’s ruling. And I am afraid that by what we say and do, we will never demonstrate God’s love to people – all people.

Christians, we have an opportunity right now to show everyone that we are not what they think we are. We have the chance right now to show and speak to people in a way that Jesus would have and did while He walked on this earth. This is not the time to fight a war. This is the time to show God’s love.   Put down your verbal weapons that are attacking those we do not agree with and try fighting a battle the way that Christ did.   Love them.

What an opportunity we have right now to be what Christ wants us to be. I quote again the verse that God has been hammering into my heart for months now.  I recently did a three week series based on this verse.  You can find the podcast (as well as all my messages) on itunes by clicking on this link   You can also find these three messages on youtube at this youtube playlist link.   Galatians 5:6 says “The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” Try reacting to people that way instead of freaking out about a Supreme Court ruling.

In talking to many Christians and seeing their posts and rants on social media, most are more concerned about the court’s ruling than they are the lives and souls of the people we rub shoulders with every day.  For some reason, they are using this Supreme Court ruling to draw the battle lines for a war that is not the one we should be fighting.

The war is not against flesh and blood.  It is not against the gay community.  It is not against the government.  If it were, then it would be time to take up our verbal weapons and go to battle.  But that is not the battle that we have been called to fight.  We are in a battle over people’s lives and for lost souls.  And to win that battle, we must fight in a very unconventional manner.  We cannot assault them with our words, attitudes, and actions of disapproving negativity.   Those are great weapons to use if we want to argue and “be right.”  Those are great weapons to use if we want to try to win A battle that makes us feel better about ourselves because we are right and they are wrong.  But they are lousy weapons to use if we want to win the war – the war for the souls of people.  We can only win that war through demonstrating with words, attitudes, and actions the love of God.

Christians love to hide behind phrases like “hate the sin, but love the sinner” and “speak the truth in love.” If we could truly do that in a way that the world sees God’s love in us then, yes, I agree.  We must speak the truth. Unfortunately, the world sees Christians as nothing more than judgmental haters because we scream and cry about their sin without showing them the love of God.  I do agree that we are to stand against sin, but that stance is in our own lives and the lives of other followers of Christ. Not the world. They are not followers of Christ. They do not have the power of the Holy Spirit to help them. They sin because they are sinners. That’s what they do. Our ranting about a sin is not going to bring them to Christ. Our love and showing love the way Christ did on earth will

When Christ walked this earth, He did not go around yelling about the atrocities of people’s sins. He loved them and accepted them where they were. He offered them hope and forgiveness. He gave them healing and restoration BEFORE He told them to go and sin no more. We do it backwards today. The church is not at all what Jesus was. He told His disciples that the world will know they are His Followers by their love. Not their words of condemnation.

I know that Jesus did at times speak very directly and harshly to some people. But look who they were. They were the religious people of the day. He was harsh to those who were religious and self-righteous. Those who judged the sinners for not following their ways. Those are the ones He laid into. But for everyone else, those who needed His love, forgiveness, and restoration, He spoke only words of love.

I know that if Jesus were physically walking on earth today, then He would be hanging out with those very people that so many Christians judge and stay away from.   He would be eating dinner with the gays and the lesbians and as a result of His love and acceptance of them as people, many would come to Him.   So why are so many of us today living the opposite way that Jesus did?   Do we truly think we know better than Jesus how to win the war for lost souls?

So we have a choice to make.  We can either feed the idea that we are intolerable haters or we can offer them God by being Jesus on earth. We can’t do both. As for speaking the truth in love, we earn the right to speak the truth when they see the love inside us.  One might make us feel good about ourselves for “standing for righteousness” while the other might actually show that God and His people are loving and will draw people into His kingdom.  Which one do you think God wants you to do?

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10 Life Lessons We Can Learn From The 2015 NCAA Basketball Tournament

duke-blue-devils-NCAA-national-champs-400x242Life Lessons Learned From This Year’s NCAA Basketball Tournament

We just completed a fantastic NCAA tournament and though for me the greatest part of March Madness was that the team who has been my favorite team since 1986, the Duke Blue Devils, won the National Championship, there was far more than just a championship that grabbed my attention this year.   One day after that great final game, I sat down and made a list of 10 life lessons that even if you are not a sports fan can learn from what we witnessed this March and early April.

  1. Enjoy Every Moment – For many, One of the greatest  memories coming out of the 2015 NCAA men’s basketball tournament was Georgia State’s RJ Hunter hitting the game winning shot that caused his coach/father, Ron Hunter, to completely fall off his stool in celebration.   That had to be one of the proudest moments that father had ever had, coaching his son who hits the game winning shot.  However, what stood out to me was Ron Hunter’s words later when he said that he wanted to enjoy this time tournament with his son as a father, not merely as his coach.  He stated that he was enjoying every minute , soaking in every moment, of his time in the tournament.


What an incredible truth that we all need to take to heart.  Our moments on earth are fleeting.  Those times to be treasured with our families are here today and gone tomorrow.   Ron Hunter knew that his coaching time with his son would be over soon.  His relationship with him would never be the same again, so he made sure he enjoyed every moment he could.

What about the people in your life?  Your family?  Your closest friends?  If you are a coach, like I am, what about your players?  Do you treasure and enjoy every minute you have with them?  Your time with each of those closest to you is fleeting.  One day, it will be over.  Don’t let the time slip away from you.  Enjoy every moment.

  1. Don’t Ever Give Up – It seems that every year in the tournament, there are teams who have no business winning a game, somehow pulling off the miracle and beating a much better opponent. Often times, these wins come when a team is trailing with seemingly very little chance to win, yet they continue to play with a never say die  And when it is done, they somehow manage to pull off the great upset.  2015 was no different.  How many people had their brackets completely busted by  a team winning that no one expected to win?

That never give up attitude needs to permeate through every aspect of our lives.    No matter how bleak things appear to be, no matter how much it seems there is no chance, don’t ever give up on the people in your life, the circumstances in your life, and especially yourself.  I sometimes wonder what we miss out on and what great things didn’t get accomplished because we gave up too soon.  Just as in so many tournament games, it is never over until the final buzzer sounds, our lives are never over until that final buzzer calls us home.  Until then, don’t ever give up.

  1. When you play for each other rather than playing for yourself, you accomplish more.  – One of the reoccurring themes you heard in postgame press conferences  this year was how that particular group of guys played that season more for each other than they did themselves.  As a result, those teams as a whole were much better than the sum of their parts.  Perhaps no one epitomized that concept more than the Wisconsin Badgers, who came within a couple of breaths of winning the whole thing.  This was a group of guy who hung together after last year’s heart-breaking loss in the semi-finals, committing themselves to each other to return to make another run at a championship.   Throughout the year and the tournament, they played hard, played smart, and played together like few basketball teams do.

In virtually every facet of our lives, whether it be our job, our family, our church, or some cause or organization that we believe in, we will always rise higher and make a stronger impact when we live for other people instead of ourselves.  When we become part of something that is bigger than ourselves, that is when we find success.    Conversely, if we live for mainly ourselves, failure becomes the end result.

Allow me to challenge you to live to love and serve others instead of living for yourself.  Although that has become a forgotten fact, that living to show love to other people is what Jesus Christ said is the one essential thing that proves who follows Him and who does not.

  1. To be successful, you must learn to change and adapt. Many Duke haters will want to argue the greatness of Coach K, but the one thing that can’t be debated is his ability to adapt and to change to be successful.  During his three decade plus tenure of coaching at Duke, he has changed and adapted his style to keep up with the changing times.  The way he coached his first national championship team is not the same way he coached any of his other four national championship teams.  His style of play changes to match the players he has and he always adapts to the needs of his players as to how he leads and motivates them.

However, as a basketball coach, one of the things that most impresses me about Coach K as a coach is his ability to adjust things during any given game.   How many times in this year’s tournament alone, did he make a simple adjustment here and there to bring his team from the brink of defeat to the victor’s podium?   Whether it was changing from their staple man-to-man defense to a zone defense or changing their offensive formations to exploit a mismatch, Coach K once again has proven that he is a master of in-game adaption.  One only has to look at the final 9:00 minutes of the championship game to see this point.  Down by nine points and his star player going to the bench with four fouls, his Blue Devil team outscored the Badgers 29-15 the rest of the way.

How many of us learn to adapt and change in the areas of our lives that we live?  Do we face each person and each situation as unique or do we rely on doing the same thing as we always do.  Parents, do you deal with each of your children the same way?  Do you raise them the exact same way as you were raised?  Or do you adapt to the changing times and pressures?  Do you adapt to the needs of each of your children?

In any area of our lives, if we stay stuck in doing things the way we always have, without adapting and changing, then it is doubtful that any of those areas of our lives will ever be truly successful.  Why?  Because our focus is on the formula and not on the people.   If you focus on the people you walk through life with, then all those relationships and what comes out of it, will be more successful.

  1. Without hard work and preparation, nothing great is accomplished. – As I watched the tournament games this year, there were times I was very impressed with the preparation teams put into scouting their opponents.   It went far deeper than know the spots on the floor where people liked to shoot or what mismatches they could exploit.  In some games, it was if a team knew exactly what their opponent was going to do.  Some of these teams were so well coached that each player automatically knew how to adjust when they had been forced into a mismatch.  They could not have done this without a lot of hard work and preparation.

Many of us dream of winning our own version of the national championship in different areas of our lives.  We want our family to win.  We want our career to win.  We want other interests in our lives to win.  But none of those will win if we are not willing to put in the hard work and preparation needed to make us win.  It takes time and it takes effort.  Nothing great is accomplished just by showing up.  You have to work and you have to prepare.  That is the only way to accomplish great things.


  1. Greatness is temporary and fleeting – All we heard about all year was how great Kentucky was.  How no one could beat them.  They would be that first undefeated National Champions since Bob Knight’s Indiana Hoosiers pulled the feat in 1976.  They were anointed as National Champions before the tournament ever began.  Yet, just like the 1991 mighty undefeated UNLV team who had been called by some the greatest team ever, this Kentucky Wildcat team fell in the semi-finals.  Once again, the undefeated team went home without a championship.  Their greatness was temporary and two other teams battled for the crown.

Always keep in mind that greatness is fleeting.  We are only as good as what we do today.  Sometimes the worst mistakes people can make is living on their laurels and not doing the little things to continue to get better.  No matter what area in your life you are thinking about, if you are not continually improving and getting stronger, the greatness that you might feel will be temporary.  Your job may be great right now.  Your family may be great right now.  Your finances may be great right now.  But in one single moment, a Wisconsin might sweep in and destroy your dream.  Keep working, keep striving, and keep getting better in every area of your life so no one can ever “badger” you into defeat.


  1. Win with dignity and lose with class – Perhaps more than any other year that I have watched the tournament, this year showed the worst side of coaches and players in defeat. From a few Kentucky players walking off the court after their loss without shaking hands with the team who beat them to Wisconsin’s  coach, Bo Ryan refusing to acknowledge Duke’s play, but instead blaming the officials for their loss, this tournament showed how not to face defeat.

Before this year, it has been common practice to praise your opponents for outplaying you.  But this year showed what I fear might become more and more common.  Play the blame game.  What are we teaching the younger generation when we blame others for our losses.   It is not your fault.  Someone cheated you.  You are not to blame.    Whatever you do, don’t take responsibility for what happened to you.   As a coach, I know that I cannot let my players blame anyone else for their losses.  As long as they don’t take personal responsibility and blame other people, then they will never learn what it takes to win.

Isn’t it that way in life too?  When we don’t take responsibilities for our own failures, no matter what area of life they are in, we will never truly succeed in those areas.   Blaming your relationship issues on the other person will never teach you what you need to do to change.  Blaming your failure at your job on your co-workers or even your boss will always lead to continued failure.

That is why in every area of our lives, we need to learn to succeed or win with dignity and when we fail or lose, we do it with class.  We take responsibility for our failure, learn from it, and move on.

  1. Defense still wins championships – From a basketball coach’s perspective and a sports enthusiast in general, I love those teams who still make defense a major part of their game. A year ago, Connecticut rode their great defense to a national championship.  This year, the Duke Blue Devils took their defensive prowess to the next level holding opponents to the lowest scoring average in NCAA post shot clock tournament history.   For years, I have termed the final four minutes of a game, “Winning Time” and this year’s Blue Devils seemed to find a way in the final segment of each big game to turn up their defensive intensity.  Their defense, especially down the stretch, became the biggest reason they were able to win many of their games – including the championship game.

For me, in this age of the glitz glamor of offense, it is refreshing to see a team hang its hat on and win with defense.  However, in my musings about the greatness of Duke’s Defense in this tournament, I came to the realization that in many ways we too need to hang our hats on our ability to defend against those things in our lives that pull us down.   For many of us, in many areas, if we don’t put up defenses in our lives, we WILL be crushed.  We will fall to external attacks and pressures.   Stress will eat at us until we break, relationships will be strained to the point of crumbling, and we will break down both physically and emotionally.  But it doesn’t have to be that way.  If we know our weaknesses (and we all should know where we are weakest) then we need to learn how to defend against it.  If you want to keep from losing in any area of your life, then learn to play defense in your life.  Learn to stop your opponents that are set to beat you.  Defense really does win.

  1. Sometimes, it is the role players in our lives that propel us to greatness – If you watched the NCAA National Championship Game, you saw two of Duke’s best players go to the bench in foul trouble with the Blue Devils trailing by nine points in the second half. Enter, little used reserve freshman wing player, Grayson Allen.  The same Grayson Allen who did not even get off the bench the first time Duke played Wisconsin.  However, in the championship game, Allen stood taller than he had all season, scoring 8 straight points (16 for the game) to bring his team back into the game.  It would not be a stretch at all to say that without Grayson Allen, the Blue Devils would not have won Coach K’s fifth national championship.

Just as Grayson Allen’s play propelled Duke to the championship, we all have those people in our lives who may not be the front and center of what we do or are all about.  But for any of us who ever has or ever will accomplish anything great in our lives, we have to know that without the help of others, we would never win that championship.  So whatever it is that you accomplish in life, make sure that you find your Grayson Allen’s that are part of your life and acknowledge them for their part in the accomplishments achieved.

  1. Each day look for that one shining moment – One of the last scenes each year of the NCAA tournament is the video montage that CBS puts together celebrating the shining moments of the nearly month long magical spectacle we call March Madness. This video captures the highs and lows of all ends of the emotional spectrum that runs through the tournament as the words, “One Shining Moment” are repeated throughout the montage.  We see the buzzer beating shots and the great plays of the tournament.  We feel with its participants both the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat.  But in the end, we are left saluting not just the National Champion team, but every team that played in this magical tournament – every team that had their shining moments.

I want to challenge you to find that shining moment in every day of your life.  Don’t just acknowledge and find joy in your championships, but find happiness and contentment in each day of your journey.  Just as the CBS video crew captures those magic moments from each game in the tournament, each day of our lives has those shining moments for us to capture.  We just have to look for them, find them, acknowledge them, and celebrate them.  Every day will have at least one shining moment.  Celebrate it.  It will make you a happier and more content person.

May the NCAA tournament and March Madness always remind you of the good things in life.

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Why I No Longer Want To Be Called a Christian

No ChristianI recently made a decision that I am sure is going to be controversial.   For those who will be offended by this decision, I am truly sorry.  However, I urge you to read this post in its entirety so that you can better understand why I made this decision.  After 44 years of calling myself a Christian, I have decided that I no longer want to be associated with what the term Christian entails.  No, I am not renouncing my faith in Christ.  That faith and love for God is as strong and present as ever.  In fact, it is partly for that reason why I no longer want to be called a Christian.

I know I can hear many of you mumbling right now in confusion as to what I am saying.  That is understandable as over the past few weeks, I have battled within my own heart whether or not this decision is strictly a reaction to the fact that I have once again seen Christians, under the pretext that they are acting in accordance with their church belief, do things in a way that is unChristlike or is Christ Himself leading me towards this decision.

As I struggled through that decision, I decided to do what is always the best thing to do.  I went to the Bible itself.   When I started examining Christ’s teachings and the writings of the Apostles, I began to realize something very disturbing.  Not only did Paul never use the word Christian in any of his writings, not only did Jesus never refer to His followers as Christians, but to my surprise, the word Christian is only used three times in the Bible.  But more surprising than the number of times it appears, is the realization that this term was used as a derogatory term by those outside the faith.  In other words, those who were opposed to Christ, called the followers of Christ Christians.  It was meant as a put down.

Okay, I know some of you are probably thinking, what’s the big deal?  This is just semantics.  But I want to propose to you that in today’s western world, it goes way deeper than semantics.  Christians today are NOTHING like those followers of Christ in the first century.  How do I know?  Quite simply, if you were to ask the people in your office, neighborhood, or those you run into at the grocery store, a high percentage of them would call themselves Christians.   And if you were to ask each one of them what a Christian is, you would probably get at least a dozen different answers.  The term Christian is not clearly defined in our world, therefore a high majority of people in the western world consider themselves Christians.  Yet, since the Bible never gives a definition for the word Christian, we have no argument to support the way we want to define Christianity.  In other words, people define it anyway they want and they act in accordance with their own thoughts as to what a Christian is supposed to be like and supposed to do.

Oh, but my reasoning for no longer wanting to be called a Christian goes much deeper than the fact that in the first century, that term was used by the pagans in a derogatory way.   One look at history will give you more than enough evidence to show that Christians are not the greatest of people.  All you have to do is look at things like the Crusades or all the times Christians have burned people at the stake because they didn’t believe the way they did.   Somehow, I just can’t see Christ condoning that.

But honestly, I don’t have to look at history to convince myself to renounce the term Christian.  All I have to do is look at people in our western world that claim to be Christians.  I’m not even talking about those who bomb abortion clinics or those who are part of the Westboro Baptist Church and all their antics.  I am talking about the average church goer that sits in the seats each Sunday morning in the churches that we attend.   Oh they love to talk the talk and tell people how much they care, but yet they turn on people in a heartbeat and in the name of the church and in the guise of Christianity, they cast judgment on people.

I understand that I am about to stir up a hornets’ nest because I am going to hit some people right between the eyes.  But quite frankly I am tired of Christians acting so unlike Christ when it comes to not only dealing with the lost world, but also how they deal with other Christians.    Christians are the most judgmental people around.  They judge the world based on the standards they believe the Bible teaches.  And they may be right in that the Bible does teach that.  For instance (get ready here), I do believe the Bible teaches that homosexuality is a sin.  However, so many Christians become absolutely homophobic and in a very real sense make it very clear that they do not want to associate with such a sinner.  Is that what Jesus would have done?  Not the Jesus I know from reading the New Testament.  That Jesus went to the homes of sinners.  That Jesus loved the sinners.  These Christians hide behind the phrase, “Hate the sin, but love the sinner,” and they think that covers them.  But do they truly show love?  No, the message that they so clearly demonstrate is that they hate the sinner as much or more than they hate the sin.  Their very words and actions show they do not separate the sin from the sinners.  They are so far from the way Christ lived that it is appalling.

Where did Christians get the idea that the lost world, the ones who are without Christ, must live according to the standards that they who call themselves Christians have?  Even when those standards might be good and Godly standards, we cannot expect those who do not have the power of the Holy Spirit inside them to live like those who do.  Let’s face it.  They are sinners.  They are supposed to sin.  They can’t help it.  That’s who they are and what they do.  The only power they have to not live a sinful life is when God takes control of their lives.  So Christians, you do more harm than good by trying to hold the world to God’s standards.  The world simply cannot hold itself to God’s standards.  So why do Christians judge them when they do not live according to the standards that they cannot possibly live up to?

But my beef with Christians goes even deeper than how so many view and treat those who are not part of their belief system.  My biggest complaint about Christians is how they treat their own people.  I am appalled at how often Christians blast other Christian leaders for something they said from the pulpit (sometimes it is even taken out of context).  I have seen and heard Christians call other Christian leaders heretics and blasphemers because they said something that did not entirely fit into their neat little doctrinal package.  I’m not saying that these things the leaders had said were always good or even benign.  They may have truly been totally off base.  However, to publically execute them with your nasty words is uncalled for and is a terrible example to the rest of the world.  Yet, so many Christians do this out of the guise that they are standing for truth.

But what is truth?  What is the truth about what Jesus expects from those who claim His name?  As I mentioned earlier, Jesus NEVER referred to people as Christians.  He called them His disciples.  The term disciple means nothing more than being a follower of Christ.  Now before you go and once again accuse me of splitting hairs and just making this a matter of semantics, let’s look at how Jesus says people will know who His true disciples are.  In John 13:35, Jesus Himself says that our love for one another will prove to the world that we are His disciples.  It’s not what we know, how often we go to church, whether we tithe faithfully, or if we speak in tongues or anything else.  Love is the key that demonstrates that we are His disciples.  That’s it.  Love.  Undying, life-changing, undeniable, unconditional, self-sacrificing, love.  Anything less, according to Jesus, then we are not a follower of His.   We may call ourselves a Christian – whatever that means – but we are not following Christ.   Followers of Christ consistently demonstrates love to the world, the Christians, and other followers of Christ.

Yet love is all too often absent from those who call themselves Christians.  Oh they sometimes put on an air of love in order to either impress someone or make themselves feel good, but the true love that Jesus demonstrated when He walked the earth, that love that says “I am going to step into the circle with those who are hurting or down and out, and I am going to encourage them, offer a helping hand, and help hold them up” is absent from most Christians and as a result most churches.  Instead, Christians are notorious for shooting their own wounded.   They don’t love.  They hurt.  It is the way of Christianity.  It has been through all of history and it is still the way of the Christian church today.  It is not the way of a follower of Christ.

For me, I have been let down and hurt by Christians one too many times.  So many of them are just a more civilized version of those who were part of the crusades or even the Salem witch trials.   Instead of demonstrating true love and reaching out to those who are lonely and hurting, they ignore them and hope they go away.  At times, they even push them away.   After all, that is what Christians have historically done.  Today’s Christian is just like Christians of past eras.  They wound more than they heal.

So I no longer consider myself a Christian because that is a term that really has no meaning.  People define it however they want to.   And most those who call themselves Christians do not live a life that truly follows Christ example.   Instead, I want to be a disciple.  I want to be called a Follower of Christ.  I want to learn from His example and live the way He lived.  I want others to see His love in me, and by that love, they will know that I am a follower of His.   Let the Christians continue to be whatever they want to be.  Let them continue to be judgmental hypocrites who care more about their doctrines and beliefs than they care about showing God’s love.  I no longer want to be one of them.  I want to offer hope and life, not condemnation and pain.

Yes, I will fail at being a follower of Christ.  I will fail miserably.  I will not always live the life of love and there will be times that people will think I am a Christian and not a follower of Christ.  But my desire and my goal is follow Christ’s example and not live by the ways of Christianity.  I do not want to be judgmental and aloof to the needs of others.  I don’t want to go to church and occupy a seat on Sunday and tell others I care about them and then don’t think about them the rest of the week.   I don’t want to ignore the hurting people in my life without offering hope and encouragement.

And I pray that I am not alone in this exodus from Christianity.  I pray that many will stop living, acting, and speaking like a Christian and will become a true follower of Christ.   I pray that churches will begin to spring up that will emphasize following Christ by exhibiting love to both their world and to those who are part of their fellowship.   That is the only way that we can make a true difference in our society.  That is the only way the world will know that we are followers of Christ.  It’s time to change.  It is time to stop being a Christian and acting like a Christian.  Instead it is time to live like Christ lived, do the things that He did, and love the way that He loved.  It’s time to start a revolution and revolt against Christianity in favor of becoming people who follow Christ.

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In Memory of Leonard Nimoy – Spiritual Life Lessons We Learned From Spock

SpockI am not ashamed to admit that Star Trek has always been my favorite television show.  My earliest memories of television was watching Star Trek and a few years later when it went into syndication, I became the biggest fan a ten year old boy could be – collecting models, toys, buying every Star Trek novel available, and even dressing up like Spock for Halloween.  Spock was my favorite character in my favorite TV show and even as I grew older, my fandom and my appreciation for the character would never wane.

So when the news of Leonard Nimoy’s death hit the newswires on February 27, 2015, my heart sank.  As illogical as it might be to shed tears and mourn the loss of someone I had never met, it could not be helped.   Nimoy’s death felt like the end of an era for me.  He and the character of Spock that he had made so famous was a link to not only my childhood, but to many other decades of my life and the inspiration and wisdom he gave me for almost 50 years of playing and reprising his most famous role cannot be measured.

As I sat and mourned the loss, I was reminded of the words spoken by Dr. McCoy after the character of Spock died in Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan (before being brought back to life in the next movie).  “He really isn’t dead as long as we remember him.”

As hard as it is to face the fact that Nimoy will never reprise the role of Spock again and the dream of seeing Shatner and Nimoy one last time together as the beloved duo of Kirk and Spock will now never happen, I am choosing to remember the logic and the life lessons that Nimoy, through Spock, taught us for almost 50 years.   Today I am posting some of those gems that he gave us and as I look at each of these Spock quotes, I realize that there are indeed life lessons we should all take to heart.

  1. Change is the essential process of all existence.” Going through life is all about adapting and changing. Every day, every situation, every stage of life is different and if we are not growing and changing, then we are losing ground. We cannot expect to handle today’s situations in life just like we did yesterdays. And tomorrow will bring a new set of circumstances that will require us to change and to grow. Although God never changes, we do and we must. If we are not changing, if we are not growing, then we are in essence ceasing to exist as an effective person in our world.
  1. “Insufficient facts always invite danger.” How often do we jump to conclusions or make assumptions about someone or situations? We assume we know their motivation or reasons behind certain statements or actions and we react accordingly to those assumptions. Or perhaps with a limited or even wrong set of facts, we make decisions that come back to haunt us. Spock’s words of wisdom warns us not to assume something about someone or something when you do not have ALL the facts, or perhaps when your emotions are clouding the facts. That will ALWAYS invite danger.


  1. “Computers make excellent and efficient servants, but I have no wish to serve under them.” When Spock spoke these words in the mid 1960’s, no one had a clue that things like social media and texting would be such a big part of people’s lives almost 5 decades later.  But now, in 2015, many people are so addicted to their smartphones, tablets, or home computers that they have in a sense become a slave to them.  We spend more time on social media than we do interacting personally with other people.  If we are ever without our phone, we feel totally hopeless and lost.  Many times our technology has kept us from doing other things and those important things in life begin to slip away.   May we all heed the words of logic from Spock and make our technology our tools and servants, not our masters.



  1. “Without followers, evil cannot spread.” With the rise of gruesome beheadings by ISIS as well as other hate crimes happening right here in our country, it is easy to despair about the evil in our world.  However, it is important to note that evil cannot have any power if there are no followers.  Unfortunately, the different evil factions are gaining followers all the time.  Evil is spreading in this world because we allowing people to follow it.  We allow compromises here and there, we overlook small things, and in the name of freedom and liberty we allow people to follow their selfish desires and little by little the compromises become greater and greater and eventually evil is spreading through the followers that we watched compromise their way to evil.


  1. “Logic is the beginning of wisdom…not the end.” At first glance, this is one of those famous Spock quotes that I do not agree with. The Bible tells us that the fear of the Lord, not logic, is the beginning of wisdom and the knowledge of God is understanding. Another passage equates wisdom with knowledge when it says that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.   Spock lived by the code of logic and he thought those who did not follow logic were foolish. So in a sense, Spock was right after all. If the opposite of foolish thinking is logical thinking, then it would only make sense that seeking wisdom is the right thing to do. It is the logical thing to do. Therefore, if the fear of the Lord produces wisdom, then it is only logical to learn to fear the Lord. Making the logical decision to fear the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, but logic itself is not the end. It is only the beginning.


  1. “You may find that having is not so nearly pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.”   What profound wisdom Spock offered to Ston with this quote. How many people have wanted something so bad and they went out and got it, no matter what the cost, only to find out that once they got it, the happiness was fleeting and did not last. The Bible tells us to set our affections on the things of God, not the things the world has to offer us because those are the only things that will truly bring happiness. If we set our hearts on those things that are not of God, then Spock is absolutely right in saying that gaining those things is not as pleasing as we thought it might be.


  1. “In critical moments, men sometimes see exactly what they wish to see.” As humans, it is natural to see only those things our minds and hearts are really looking for. If someone has hurt you, then often times you can only see the negative side of that person because your natural human heart doesn’t want to see the positive things. On the other hand, if you truly love someone, then you can overlook their faults and see only what your love tells you to see. Neither is a perfect sight. Both see only what they want to see. It is not logical, but it is true. However, which way serves for the better good.   In the critical moments, is it better to see the positives in people, in situations, and in life, or the negative?


  1. “The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few….or the one.” What would this world be like if we all lived with this Spock motto? What would our families be like if each one of us looked more to fill the needs of the other people in our lives than we do our own?   Jesus taught throughout the Gospels that we are to serve other people and only in that serving will we find true joy.   Jesus, Himself, served as the greatest example as He did not look after His own needs, but instead voluntarily suffered a gruesome death so that many would have eternal life. If you want to affect your world and even your family, then the best place to start is by following Spock’s motto and Christ’s example. The needs of your family and your world outweigh the needs of you, the one.


  1. “I have been, and always shall be, your friend.” Part of Star Trek’s appeal has always been the friendship between Kirk and Spock. From the outside, it might have seemed a friendship that could not endure, but as we watched their friendship grown through the decades, it could not be denied that they were the best of friends and brought out the best in each other. Kirk’s passion impulse was always balanced by Spock’s calm and logic. Their friendship endured throughout time and became legendary. They are an example for us all to aspire, that no matter the circumstances, true friendship must endure. Circumstances and even hurt feelings must never stand in the way of true friendship.


  1. “Live long and prosper.” Along with the split hand salute that is taken from a Jewish blessing, this is perhaps Spock’s most famous quote and it rings with such truth and blessing. Who doesn’t want to live a long, prosperous life? Yet so many people live a life of stress and struggles as we seek to merely make ends meet in our lives. However, this famous Vulcan salute gives us the secret of a prosperous life. The hand gesture that goes with the greeting comes from the Hebrew letter that in English translates in the Sh It is the first letter in the Hebrew word for God, Shaddai, the word for God’s glory, Shekinah, and the word for peace, Shalom. When the Jewish rabbi gives this hand gesture while pronouncing a blessing over the people in the synagogue, he is invoking a blessing, “may God and His Glory give your peace.” The peace that God and His Glory brings to our lives when we fully walk in His ways is the only way to live long and prosper.

Leonard Nimoy, from the bottom of our hearts, we thank you for helping take us for nearly 50 years where no man has gone before and for teaching us such great truths to live by. You may be gone from this earth, but your logic and wisdom will live as long as there is Star Trek on this earth.

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When God Touches Our Lives – A Christmas Message

jm_200_NT2.pd-P17.tiffWe all know the Christmas story and most of us are familiar with the events that led up to that wonderful, blessed, and holy night.  We know how the angel Gabriel appeared to a young girl named Mary and informed her that she would be the earthly vessel that God would use to bring His Son into a lost and dying world.

We are told in Luke chapter 1 that this confused Mary.  How could she become a mother when she was still a virgin?

Some of you may have a similar story where you knew God was directing you to something beyond what humanly made sense.  As a result of following God, you became a first hand witness to God’s amazing love, grace, and power

However for many of us, we have only witnessed that life of faith and obedience from afar.   We have, to this point, remained comfortable in our Christian life, not ever doing something drastic that did not make logical sense.  Sure we exhibit a measure of faith from time to time and we occasionally are witness to God’s supernatural provision.   But how often do we step out in faith and trust God for the impossible?

That was part of a discussion we recently had in the small group that I’m a part of. And that left me wondering how do we know when God is asking us to step out of our comfort zone and believe Him for greater things?  On the one hand, it is easy to say that God always wants us out of our comfort zone and relying on Him.   Not only is that very spiritual sounding, but it’s very true.  However, I think we all agree that this is not the same for every person.   For some, it might be selling everything and moving to a third world country. For others, it might be leaving a job they have been comfortable in to pursue something else.  It may be starting your own business, always a risky endeavor. Or perhaps for you, it is beginning a new ministry. Whatever it is, my question has always been how do you know if it is God calling you to step out in faith or if it is merely an emotional ideal or something we think we are supposed to do as our next step in our spiritual maturity.

I’ve always marveled at God’s Word, the Bible.  It is almost uncanny how that each time I go through some questioning in my life, the answers are found in whatever part of the Bible I am studying at the time.  Or on this case, being only a few days before Christmas, in the story that everyone is hearing at this time of year.

As I once again read Luke 1, I tried to imagine what Mary must have been feeling. Here she was a young woman with her whole life in front of her.  I’m sure she had her plans all laid out. She was going to marry Joseph in a great traditional Jewish wedding feast and they would settle into their life and live unobtrusively in the house that maybe Joseph himself had built.   They would have kids and friends and live a life of peace and relative comfort.

But all that changed the night Gabriel came to visit.   “You will conceive and give birth to a son.  But not just any son.  He will be God on Earth.  Mary, not only is your life going to be turned upside down, but the whole destiny of the world is about to be rocked.”

When God steps in and wants to alter our destiny, it is for reasons that are far bigger than just ourselves.  Too often we get caught up in an introspective view of God’s will and we miss the bigger picture of what God is doing.  I hate to be the one to break the bad news to you. But quite simply, when God does ask you to do something big and drastic, stepping out of your comfort zone, it’s not primarily for your happiness, security, and prosperity.   In fact it might not even lead to any of those.

It surely didn’t do that for Mary.  Do you think in her time and her culture that Mary’s pregnancy before she was married was an easy, happy, secure, and prosperous time?    Not a chance.  She was shamed, scorned, and ridiculed.  Yet she endured it all with joy in her heart because she did not focus on herself, but the greater good that was being given to the world.

What about us?  How do we know when God wants to use us for the greater good?  Mary had the constant reminder in the ever growing baby bump that God was at work.   But we don’t have that constant reassurance in the form of a baby bump that God is working.  How do we know that we didn’t fabricate the idea to step out on faith in any particular area.  We don’t have that same constant reminder that Mary had.

Or do we? Whereas Mary had God the Son living inside her as a constant reminder that God was doing something special through her, those of us who are followers of Christ have God, the Holy Spirit dwelling inside of us as a constant comfort and reminder that God is working inside us.

However, as we examine Mary’s encounter with Gabriel, I believe we learn some deeper truths that help answer the questions as to how we know when God is asking us to step out on faith and move way beyond our comfort zone.

“How can this happen?” Mary asked Gabriel. “I am a virgin.”

We often ask God that same question. We feel that He is asking us to do something out of the ordinary, to step out of our comfort zone of life, and step out on faith. Sometimes that step we feel God is asking us to take just doesn’t make sense. “God how can this happen? How can I do what you are asking me to do? How can my family survive when we are giving up a guaranteed income? How can I step into this ministry when I don’t have the background or the training for it? How? How? How?”

In Luke 1:35, Gabriel responded to Mary’s question with the same answer that centuries later God is giving to us. “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you.”

When God calls you to step out of your everyday life and do something uncommon that humanly speaking doesn’t make sense, that call is always followed by the Holy Spirit touching your life in a way that cannot be denied.   We learn from Mary that when God touches our lives, He changes our plans, our passion, and our purpose.

Mary’s plans for her life changed drastically when God touched her life. Now she was pregnant and in many ways became the outcast of her society for getting pregnant before she was married. Her plans for a happy, comfortable, normal life changed the instant God touched her.

Many of us struggle with stepping out of our comfort zone to do something radical for God because it goes against the plans we have made for our lives.   That’s a natural reaction and a natural reason to question whether what we think God is saying is actually what we are supposed to do. There is nothing wrong with being sure about something before you change your lifelong plans. However, once we know this is what God is directing, then we must accept the fact that God is changing our plans. However, just as Mary’s plans were changed so that the Son of God would come to Earth to save the world, God has a greater plan to accomplish by changing our plans.

When God touches our lives, He changes our passion. When Mary heard everything that Gabriel had told her, she responded by saying, “I am the Lord’s servant. May everything you have said about me come true.” In that instant her passion had changed. Not only did she now know what God wanted from her, but she now wanted it too.   When we get to the point in our lives that we are willing to take that step and get out of our comfort zone, it will not be something we do begrudgingly because God will have changed our passion.  We will now want it too.  Those things that excited us before, those things that we took comfort in, and those things that we held on to for security, will fade away in the midst of a new passion.

Some of you have experienced what I am talking about.   You have taken that step of faith and though there may still be at times some apprehension (don’t think for a minute that Mary did not have her moments of apprehension and feelings of inadequacy), you have felt that assurance that you were doing the right thing and you had an almost unexplained passion and excitement for what God was going to do. I know my family is going through those feelings right now in an area we believe God has called us to step out in faith. For those of you who know me well, you also know that this is a complete change in what I have believed in (not talking about a doctrinal thing). Yet, I feel a new passion and assurance that this step of faith is exactly what God wants us to do. As a result, I am excited to see how God is going to move and provide.

Finally, we learn from Mary, that when God touches our lives, He changes our purpose. No longer was she only going to be Mary, the wife of Joseph the carpenter.  She was now going to be Mary, the mother of Jesus, the Son of God. Her whole purpose in life took a drastic change and her destiny would never be the same.

What is your purpose in life? Is it just to exist from day to day, not really making a difference in the world? God doesn’t call everyone to be a preacher or a missionary, but I do believe He calls everyone to make a difference in some positive way in their world.   I know many of you are making that difference. But I also know for some of us that God is directing us to get out of our comfort zone, take a step of faith, and let God change, redirect, or focus our purpose in life.

What is God asking you to do? He asked Mary to be the instrument He used to bring His Son into the world. As a result, her plans, her passion, and her purpose were completely changed and the destiny of the world fell into God’s plans.   If God is asking you to step out of your comfort zone and take a step of faith, then you don’t have to worry whether or not He is directing your or not. He will touch your life in a special way and your plans, your passion, and your purpose WILL also change.   Are you ready to fall into line with God’s direction?

In closing let me leave you with the same words that Gabriel left with Mary. Luke 1:37 says, “For the Word of God will never fail.”   Dare to trust God and take Him at His Word. He will not fail you.

Have a Merry Christmas and in these final days of the year may God surround you with His love, fill you with His grace, and capture your heart.

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Finding Your Soul Rest – A Look at Jeremiah 6:16


Finding Your Soul Rest

Can you believe it is that time of year where the days of summer will soon transition into a new school year?   Soon the roads that so many travel each morning to work will be filled with school busses, parents driving their kids to school, and the oh so dreaded high school student drivers.  Even parents who had grown accustomed to a summer routine will find themselves suddenly overwhelmed at the word, taxi driver is added to their job description.  Practices, games, clubs, organizations, church activities, parent conferences, etc. are added to their already busy schedule.  And somewhere in there, we are supposed to find time to spend in communing with God and helping people.

Sadly, in the coming months, many Christians will sacrifice the things God has called them to do on the altar of their busy schedules.  They will first let some of the little things slide and no one will blame them because they too feel the strain and stress of a saturated schedule.  They will forfeit their time with God just this one morning on the guise that a few moments of more sleep will benefit them just this one day.  They can always catch up with their God time later in the day or perhaps the next.

For many, the god of weekend football or soccer games demands an offering of the occasional absence from the Sunday worship service.  This is soon followed by the shrine of their own sanity requiring them to skip their small group gatherings to try to just stay afloat in the tossing sea of turmoil.

Before long, that one morning missed with God, that one Sunday of skipped church, and that one small group meeting not attended, opens the door a few weeks later for another.  Then another.  And before long, missing that integral glue that binds our hearts to the ways of God becomes the norm.

Unfortunately, this is a pattern repeated in Christians more often than it is not.  Between work, family, and other commitments, life has become just too busy.  Yet throughout Scriptures, we are repeatedly told to rest in the Lord.  But quite simply, the demands on our lives are so full that we do not have the time to rest in the Lord, much less minister to others.

I’ll be honest, this was a quandary I was in.  The past month or so, my church has been doing a series on resting in God.  However, it was a concept that I simply could not grasp.  Oh, theologically I believed in it.  I knew it was important to rest in the Lord, but what I never could understand was what that really means.  I know it could not simply mean sitting back and basking in God’s glory and how wonderful and deep His love for me is.  If that is all we did as Christians, then who would evangelize the world, feed the hungry, reach out to the hurting, teach the children, guide the youth, disciple the men, and mentor the women.  In other words, if everyone rested in the Lord, then how would ministry ever take place?  In fact, if resting in the Lord means not doing anything for His kingdom, then why not go straight to Heaven now!   There is no better place than Heaven to rest in the Lord.  Therefore, I simply could not match the concept of people and ministry with the idea of rest.

However, this past Sunday night as I sat discussing with my small group a verse that had been read earlier in the day during the worship service, things began to crystalize a bit more in my mind.  As we read and discussed Jeremiah 6:16, I began to see that our soul finding rest in God is not really inactivity, but is best described as a progression of things we do.


This is what the Lord says:
“Stop at the crossroads and look around.
    Ask for the old, godly way, and walk in it.
Travel its path, and you will find rest for your souls.”

                                    Jeremiah 6:16 (NLT)


In our small group discussion, we focused on the verbs in this verse.  As you probably remember from school, the most common definition of a verb was to say that it was an action word.  And action usually means doing something.  As I read this verse, it immediately began to resonate with me because I saw the soul’s rest is not simply a choice we make to rest, but it is the natural result of taking action.

The first action we are told to take is to Stop.  Any time we hear that command, we automatically know that there is a reason that such a statement was made.  Those who are followers of Christ know that when God tells us to stop, it is probably for our own good because we are about to step into something we shouldn’t.  I started this blog post by describing the busy schedule so many of keep and how especially in the next few months we are going to be tempted to temporarily (at least we tell ourselves it is only a temporary thing) step away from something we know God wants us to do.

I do not, nor will I ever, claim to be a prophet.  However, it does not take a prophetic word to say that on the eve of the busyness that will soon engulf us, God wants us to take a deep breath and STOP.  We are, just like the people of Judah we read about in Jeremiah 6:16, at a crossroads.  We will have decisions to make.  On the one hand, God is calling us in the middle of our busy schedule to be the light to our world, to reach out to those who are hurting, and to encourage those whom God has put in our spiritual circle of influence.  On the other hand, the demands of life scream at us to go above and beyond the call of duty for our careers, to push and push to better ourselves and our families, and then just before we hit exhaustion, to step away from God’s provisions (time with God, commitment to church, and the fellowship of a small group, to name a few) to take care of our own needs.

These are some of the crossroads we will be facing and Jeremiah 6:16 tells us that as we approach one of these crossroads we are to stop.

And then we are to Look.   Just as it when we were children when we learned to look both ways before we crossed the street, when we are at one of these crossroads in our lives, when the pressures of life are tugging at our hearts to compromise what deep down we know to be right, we need to take time to look.  Look both directions.  However, notice that this passage does not say when you come to a fork in the road.  It says when you come to a crossroad.  If it were merely a fork in the road, then you would have two choices – left or right.   Presumably, one way would be the right way and one would be the wrong way.

I suggest that in the case of a crossroad, there are at least three possible directions to take – right, left, or straight.  This is an important distinction to make from a fork in the road because when we are at crossroads in our lives, there are often more than two choices.  There is, of course, the wrong choice, the one that will lead us into pain, heartache, and perhaps destruction.  Most of us are good about avoiding that obvious turn.  When we see what is down that path, we are smart enough to know that there are no good results.  The good things is that we have no intention of doing those things we know are wrong.  We are not going to cheat on our spouse, stop going to church, drop our accountability with our small group, or throw the idea of prayer out the window.  Turning down that path is not even a consideration for us.

However, we sometimes think about turning down the second path.  This is the path of small compromise.  We aren’t going to sin.  We aren’t going to cheat on our spouse.  We are only going to flirt with someone who is not our spouse.  We aren’t going to stop going to church.  We are just going to miss occasional Sundays when we are too tired to go.  We aren’t going to drop out of our home group.  We are just not going to go when it is not convenient.  We aren’t going to stop reading the Bible.  We are simply going to read it when a better time arises.  It is especially important to look down this path, past the initial scenery and search for all the possible outcomes if you choose this path.  As you look down the path, ask yourself one simple question – are there truly any long term benefits of choosing this path?

We might think this path of compromise will lead our soul to rest.  We will get more sleep, we will take things off of our plate to free up more time, and we may even convince ourselves that this path will help our lives spiritually.  However, nowhere in Scripture does it even hint that compromise of any kind will have positive results.  In fact, there are stories after stories of Bible characters who prove the opposite is true.

Finally, there is the path that leads to our rest.  This is the path of righteousness that leads to peace, joy, and love.  However, the challenging part of this path is that at first glance, it might not look as pleasing as the second path.  It may not seem as fun.  Often times, when we stand at the crossroads, we cannot see the greatness that lies down this path.  At the moment, we might not be able to focus on the benefits that will come when we choose to do act in according to God’s ways.

That is where the all-important next step comes in.  We are told to ask for the old and godly ways.  The natural mind of man cannot always see down the right path, but God promises in James 1:5 that if we lack wisdom we should ask God for it and He will generously give it to us.  As we stand at our daily crossroads, not sure which way to go, God tells us to ask Him for wisdom.  Ask for Him to show you the old ways, the ways that have been written not only in the Word of God, but also in our very spirits.  These ways are not hidden nor are they a secret, for they are always in view of those who ask for them.

For many  of us, the wisdom of the old ways, those ways of God recorded in Scripture are not really in question.  When we are at the crossroads, looking down every possible path, we usually know which path to choose.  However, so often we still fall because we decide to walk just a few steps down the road of compromise, never intending to journey too far before turning back to walk the right road.   Just one more step down that path leads to another and then another and before long, we are far away from the path we should have chosen.  Perhaps we are even too far down the path of compromise to find our way back to the crossroads.  We then find ourselves in a mess and we ask why and how we got there.   What could we have done to avoid going down the path so far?  Why is there no rest for our souls?

Jeremiah 6:16 gives us those answers.  We fell short in following the principles outlined in that verse.  Yes, we stopped, we looked, and perhaps we even asked, but we did not immediately follow through with the next progression on the road to soul rest.  Instead of flirting with the wrong path, we should have taken the steps to walk in the old ways.  That is so often the mistake Christian young people make when they take their first few steps into independence away from their parents and the church they grew up in.  They intend to walk in the old ways, but their first few weeks of college are not marked by following Christ.  Instead of immediately getting involved in a church,  they desire to see and experience the fullness of college life.  So they take those first few steps of compromise instead of immediately walking in God’s ways.

I encourage each of you, no matter where you are on your journey of faith, that the very instant you know the right path to take in any circumstances, begin to walk in that path.  If you choose to wait to walk in it, then the short amount of time you planned to wait will turn into a length of time that you never intended.

This verse goes on to tell us that once we take those first steps to walk in the right path, we then need to travel in it.  There is a difference between walking and traveling.  Walking is something you might casually do.  However, when you travel, you commit to the journey.  You aren’t going to turn around and go try another path.  You have committed in this particular area of your life to follow God’s plan and His ways.

And finally, we see the exciting part.  We find rest.  There is an important distinction I want to point out in this last phrase.  Remember, we have been looking at the verbs in this verse.   When I first read this verse, I misinterpreted it.  I did see the progression that we have talked about, but the way I first saw it, I read it with the following verbs:   Stop, Look, Ask, Walk, Travel, and then you will rest.   WRONG!   In our small group discussion last Sunday, my wife pointed out that the rest was not the end result of the progression.  The verse is actually telling us that as we travel on the right path, we will FIND rest.    Travel its path, and you will find rest for your souls.  The soul rest does not come at the end of the journey down God’s path.   Our soul finds rest because we are traveling down God’s path, doing the things He wants us to do.  Rest does not mean getting away from doing the things God has called us to do.  Soul Rest actually takes place when we are actively doing the things of God.


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